Be the Kind Of Friend Everyone Loves To Have
February 1st, 2010
You can't please everybody; there will always be someone you know who isn't very pleased with you. In fact some may even hate you. Even within the circle of your friends, you cannot be assured that all of them like being around you. Have you ever thought of the reasons why? But whatever the reasons are, here are some tips that will surely help you be that type of friend everyone wishes to have.
- Be Your Friend's Number One Cheerleader. Bring out the best from your friend. For example, if your friend is joining a play in school, be one of the early birds and sit on the front row to take a closer view and applaud for him/her. If he or she is down in the dumps, be the first one to come rushing to your friend for a quick "pick me up on a bad day". Chances are, they'll appreciate it.
- Learn the Art of Sharing Secrets. When your friend tells you something that is supposed to be a secret, it should remain as is. That's why it's called the art of sharing secrets. You share secrets and by the term itself, it shouldn't be spilled to anyone. Standing by your words to keep your buddy's hush-hush would earn you his/her trust.
- Be Sensitive Enough. If your friend needs time to be alone and think, let him/her be. Sure, you are concerned but when they say they want some time alone, give it to them. Don't force them to go out and join you in the latest outing if they don't want to. There is always a time for everything. There's a time to play pranks and Jokes and there's also a time for being serious. If you are really a good friend, you'll stick with your pal regardless of the weather. Know when to keep quiet and listen if needed. Give them enough space to think about their life.
- Mark that Calendar. Nothing warms the heart of anyone than the thought of knowing that someone actually remembers their birthdays, or any special dates for them in the calendar. A gift is not a prerequisite. Trite as it may sound, the thought that you remember them is already enough. On the other hand, if you are someone who is not very good on remembering dates, get your calendar, organizer or even cell phone and let them do the task of reminding you of the dates you should keep in mind.
- Don't Be a Spoiler. Loosen up and let your hair down. You wouldn't want to be branded as spoilsport or the killjoy of the group would you? Take risks and do something you haven't done before. If your friends want to try out bungee jumping, go with them even though you are afraid of heights. It's a perfectly safe activity. Conquer your fear. Are you the one in the group who usually heads home first when in a party? Come on, staying out late at night or partying once in a while doesn't kill you, as long as you act responsibly.
- Be Flexible. This means be flexible in your views and when discussing other topics and subjects. Life is never a bore when you are having a good conversation with someone. Being with someone who can talk about anything under the sun is fascinating. From being a nasty Joker down to being an existentialist, this kind of friend is really a must have.
Be the kind of friend everybody wants to have and you're likely to have the kind of friend you always wanted to have. Your actions can influence the people around you to be just like you - a friend for keeps.
Moni Arora
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February 1st, 2010 at 12:28 am
How to deal with a kind of “friend”?
i have a friend that is older than me. she’s actually more of my sister’s friend. she is always mean to me. she never used to be but now she’s "all grown" and when ever something she says or does something to me, my sister doesn’t stand up for me but sides with her. my sister and i used to spend a lot of time together and looked after each other but not with her friend around. I still consider her a friend because EVERYONE loves her and i’d be left out! it’s hard to stay away because i go to the same camps and clubs as her. My sister is SO obsessed and talks on the phone or sees her every minute of her life!!!
February 1st, 2010 at 5:30 am
jealousy is a disease.
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February 1st, 2010 at 5:32 am
She sounds like a mean person and you should stay away from her. She may be jealous of you for some reason. Find your own friend and stay away from her.
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February 1st, 2010 at 5:34 am
find yourself a new friend
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February 1st, 2010 at 5:36 am
be courteous but stand up for yourself if she’s mean to you. try to keep your distance from her.
instead, get close to your friends and do what your sister is doing. talk to them all the time, and go to movies with them so your sister gets a taste of how she is leaving you out.
give ur sis a taste of her own med
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February 1st, 2010 at 5:38 am
i say you start telling this girl! dats she betta stop! or you’ll kick her a$$..haha or u can tell her to stop being mean..or dont get mad…juss get even!!
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February 1st, 2010 at 5:40 am
How about trying to talk to your sister about it?
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February 1st, 2010 at 5:42 am
i’d say the best thing to do is A. try not to let it affect you and B. talk to your sister about it sometime when that friend is not around. your sister might not want to hear it, she might just get mad and blow you off. if that’s what happens then don’t get mad, you did what you could. not only that but she might not be listening at the moment of you telling her, but she’ll think about what you said later! that’s always how it goes. and as far as the friend being mean to you, you gotta just ignore her. don’t let someone, especially someone mean, have power over your happiness. someone like that just isn’t worth it!
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experience!
February 1st, 2010 at 5:44 am
If someone bothers upsets me,I avoid them.I t sounds like you are jealous of thier relationship.Go on with your life and your friends,don’t let this wiegh your heart down.Life is too short believe me.My husband died in April "07 he was 45 yrs.old.I’ll spare the details,but his dying made me realize that go through each day as if it were your last.Other words,have fun, be a good person,don’t get hung up on the little things.Live your life!
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February 1st, 2010 at 5:46 am
Are you looking at this fairly? Does your sister *really* side with this girl over everything? If you feel that way, tell your sister how you feel. I find that logic and reason and truth hardly ever fail.
If you don’t like this girl, I assume you’ve tried to be friends and it didn’t work out. If she’s openly mean to you, tell her to step off. Plus, you shouldn’t consider this girl a friend just because "EVERYONE" else loves her. If she’s done something to get on your bad side, then she doesn’t deserve to be counted among your friends. Just ignore this girl. If she really really really bugs you on purpose, make it clear that you don’t want to be associated with her, full stop. It shocks most people so bad that anyone would feel that way that they back off.
P.S.: If your sister still wants to be friends with this girl, then it’s really not your place to criticise her. She has a right to be friends with a loser, just as much as you have a right to not be friends with her.
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February 1st, 2010 at 5:48 am
It sounds like to me this person has some sort of hold on your Sister in some way. Most people in this situation would atleast hear you at to determine whats going on but it seems like this girls presence is much more than just a friend. Is this girl popular and well liked? Maybe your sister isnt defending you because she really wants to be this girls friend. If your Sister isnt taking up for you, take up for yourself. You should always defend for what you believe in. Dont worry about her and camps and other things, be your own person and hang out with peopl that truly care about you.
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February 1st, 2010 at 5:50 am
attempt to befriend her but if she’s still a stuck-up bitch then just drop it.. otherwise try to get closer with you sister too.
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February 1st, 2010 at 5:52 am
Have you spoken to her about it? She may not realise how much she is affecting you. If you confront her and address these issues and she then contiues to do the same things, she is not your friend, she is a bully. If she is saying, or doing things which embarrass, hurt, or offend you and takes no care for your feelings she is not worth the worry. Just try to ignore her as much as you can and distance yourself from her. If she approaches you and says something horrible to you, just reply with "whatever’ and seem as though you really dont care what she has to say. Its the reaction she is trying to get out of you. If you dont give her the reaction she will get bored and probably move on to someone else. Your true friends will always stick by you.
Sooner or later her ‘friends’ will realise she is not all that. It sounds as though she has self esteem issues which causes her to try and make others seem smaller and less important than herself, by degrading and humiliating others.
Your sister sounds young, but if she is smart she will soon learn blood is thicker than water and true friends are worth their weight in gold. ‘Friends’ that just want to be popular always fail, because they end up treating every one badly and become a horrible person to hang out with.
Also talk to your sister about how this person makes you feel. She may not defend you straight away, but at least she will be more aware of what her friend is doing and hopefully make her realise sooner, that her friend is not that great.
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